The first question you might have is, “Are sexual demons real or a figment of my imagination?” Yes, these demons are real. There are many scriptures that make reference to spirits that could take on a form of something else. We know Satan took on the form of a serpent in the book of Genesis. There are other scriptures that speak of angels taking a form of people, so we know this is possible. But all demons look for people to influence, harass, torment and defile. Genesis 6:4 speaks of demonic spirits that sought to have sex with women in order to impregnate them. They gave birth to giants that were a hybrid of demons and humans, but that is why God ended up sending the flood. So, demons have long been interested in sex with mankind in order to cause defilement to God’s creation. There are no more giants like there were in ancient times, but the spirits still exist and their agenda is the same. They want to impregnate humanity with perversion and a propensity to prefer that which is unclean, defiled, and glorifies Satan.
Most people contemplate suicide because of the deep shame and humiliation of feeling like there is something unclean about their life. They have no one they could turn to for help, so it’s about time the body of Christ gets an education on this subject. NO ONE should feel hopeless when Christ is our answer. He is our deliverer. He is our hope. And for goodness sake, if you don’t have any personal experience with this subject, don’t be critical of others that need help or tell them these things don’t exist. Maybe you don’t have personal revelation or experience in this area, but it’s a disservice to others that want help to tell them something that would only add to their discouragement.
The Bible tells us in Proverbs 25:2 “It’s the glory of God to conceal a matter, but it’s the glory of kings to search out a matter.” We need to be good at searching out the things we don’t know, not automatically dismissing something that God wants us to learn. I research things, which is how I’ve learned about these things, plus, I have personal experience.
Sexual demons include spirits of lust, perversion, unclean spirits and those from a class of demons known as Lilith (the female version), lilis (the male version) and ardat-lili, which were also related to this group of demons. If we look back at history, these demons have been found in many ancient texts of mid-Eastern cultures, including the book of Isaiah, the Babylonian Talmud, the Kabbalah, incantation bowls from ancient Iraq and Iran, and Jewish writings, all which are several thousand years old. These Aramaic prayer bowls, or incantation bowls as they were known, were thought to either trap, bind, or evict the spirit that was harassing them. It would have a picture of the demon along with words of incantations that were meant to cancel out the magic that was affecting the person, but it was also worded like a divorce decree. (Footnotes 1,2) So, they had the right thought, but it was wrongly executed because it was still using pagan rituals to try and accomplish their objective. These ancient writings from a variety of different cultures and religious beliefs, along with the appearance of Lilith in scripture, agree with one another and can be used as supporting evidence.
We know that demons have existed from before the earth was created, because they are supernatural beings, but they fell to earth when Satan and the other rebellious angels were cast down from heaven. However, perhaps one of the most telling indications that something exists is the fact that people unknown to one another, from ancient times to modern times, have similar experiences that also agree. These are all a confirmation of truth. Personal experiences and testimonies cannot be discounted, They can’t be explained away. When you have a personal experience with something, no one can tell you you imagined it all in your head or it’s some psychological disorder.
Characteristics of demonic sexual spirits:
This spirit brings fear and terror at night, like the screech of the owl does when it swoops down and grabs its prey, because a person wakes up with the realization that something not of this world has been touching them without their knowledge or permission. It happens suddenly and unexpectedly, as demons seek to seduce people while they sleep. These spirits can also bring nightmares. However, on the opposite side of the emotional spectrum is the fact that it also produces feelings of sexual pleasure, which can cause very conflicting feelings in the individual. There can be a great deal of guilt over enjoying something that a person feels is wrong, yet the pleasure part is what the enemy counts on so that people will keep the door open to him. There are many references in the Bible to spirits that will tempt, seduce, entice and lure people into sin.
These spirits, also known as a mare spirit in some cultures, have the ability to make a person feel like a heavy weight is sitting on their chest. They may make their victim feel paralyzed and unable to move or speak.
They can also affect child-bearing, fertility/infertility, miscarriage and more. These demonic spirits can reportedly cause childhood trauma, abuse, and infant death.
They can also cause untold marital and relationship problems. They will destroy marriages because these spirits work to pit couples against one another, and they have no idea a demonic agenda is working against them. They just find that they can’t get along with their spouse. These spirits can also be known as ‘spirit husbands or spirit wives’ because they have made themselves ‘one’ with those they have chosen. They are very jealous and possessive of the object of their desire, which could be one way the spirit of jealousy and control also affects people in relationships. They are also able to work through witchcraft spirits in real people that use astral projection to ‘visit’ people at will and try to have sex with other partners. When incubus and succubus spirits or other perverse spirits are in a person’s life, they assume the role of husband or wife. They become a covenant partner which must be renounced and DIVORCED. They will defile even a Christian marriage through ungodly, impure fantasy and other things, because a demonic spirit of any kind will never be satisfied with something pure or godly. It will come to despise it, because Satan despises God’s order.
These unclean demonic spirits work alongside lying spirits to create strongholds. A stronghold is a place in a person’s belief system where they have embraced the lie and they refuse to hear the truth. A perverse spirit turns things upside down. What is bad, seems good. What is pure and right, is considered undesirable, void of any satisfaction, or insufficient. It doesn't always have to take on the idea of being bad, just undesirable, therefore it is rejected in favor of something else. In order to turn a person to reject God’s natural order, which is His ordained order for life and relationships, the stage must first be set for a person to become disappointed or dissatisfied with what is His choice and His will. Disappointment turns to bitterness. Then, a rejection and abandonment of godly morals and conduct so that a godless and rebellious lifestyle can be embraced. Now, stop to think about all that has been written here up to now. It is said that incubus and succubus spirits are the same spirit, but able to switch between male or female, so they have bisexual abilities and possess the power to influence others in a similar fashion. It is easy to see how these demonic spirits can cause confusion regarding gender identity issues, sexual orientation issues, and a root cause of homosexuality. Familiar spirits can be a part of someone’s life all their life if they are born into generational sin and iniquitous patterns. That is why people can swear up and down they were ‘born gay’ when in fact it is actually caused by demonic spirits. There are familiar spirits that remain in families to reproduce certain sins and lifestyles. It may skip a generation or two, then reappear, which is why it can sometimes not be considered as a generational curse. Also, in households where the female is controlling, uses shame and intimidation to demean others, or male leadership is greatly lacking or subdued by a dominant female, there will be greater instances of children turning to the gay or perverse lifestyle. Why? Because the order is upside down. It's reversed. God has chosen the male authority to be dominant over the family unit, not the female. God has chosen the male authority to represent Christ to the family. As Christ is the head of the church, man is to represent Christ to his family. The male authority is designed by God to love, protect, cover, instruct, and discipline the household in righteousness so that good fruit and godly offspring are the result of a divinely ordered union between a man and a woman. THIS IS GOD'S ORDER. The incubus and succubus spirits can work in those situations where the authority is backwards, missing or dysfunctional because they are rooted in power struggles and rebellion. Friend, it is not love to allow you to fool yourself into thinking anyone can sin with impunity. You must know the truth because you are held accountable to it. There is a holy, loving God that has made a provision for your sin, and that is the blood sacrifice of Jesus Christ. All you have to do is accept His provision! Trying to deny or avoid truth does not lessen the penalties for breaking God's laws.
We cannot help anyone if we are busy judging them. All people tend to see is the sin, but since they can't see the demons controlling others they tend to judge the sin and reject the person. God still loves us all, regardless. It makes Him sad when people live in bondage and He longs to give us the answers we need. People fear the rejection of talking openly about this subject, and fear of judgment keeps people trapped. That’s why I am addressing it today. The reality though, is that the enemy will use our fears and pride to undermine our success and lay a trap for us. Pride and fear will make a person fall because it will keep them from asking for help. Better to face your fears from someone that is equipped to help you than allow Satan to drag you through greater shame and failure later on.
How to Get Free:
As I mentioned in the beginning, you must be born again. You cannot be set free by doing any sort of pagan rituals. If it doesn’t involve Jesus Christ at the center of your prayer, it’s not going to work. He is not going to be among a collection of other gods or idols. He is known as the supreme, almighty God. You must renounce all other religions and the gods or goddesses associated with them and vow to make Jesus Christ your Lord and Savior.
Examine yourself honestly as to whether or not you are dealing with offense, resentment, bitterness or unforgiveness. You cannot close a door to the enemy while keeping another door open. I have a very thorough prayer that renounces a lot of generational sin. It’s called the Breakthrough Prayer. You can use it as a guide for your conversation with God. God wants you to feel genuine sorrow for your sin and compassion towards others.
You must divorce the works of darkness, both in word and in deed. That means you must stop doing whatever you know is wrong, and start embracing purity and righteousness. You cannot continue to have sex outside of marriage, or give in to pornography or other unclean activities. If you are a couple, then both of you must go through the same steps that I am outlining here. It does not work for only one person to say the prayers, because you are in the same home. The two have become one. What affects one will naturally affect the other person.
You must also tell these spirits that you do not want them in your life anymore and let them know they are not your masters and they cannot stay. You must be forceful in exercising your God given authority. You may even need to incorporate fasting because they will test you to see if you really mean it.
You must be filled with the Holy Spirit so that you have power to withstand temptation and live a holy life.